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25/08/2023 की प्रतियोगिता का विषय है “Love Marriage Vs Arrange Marriage”। हमसे जुड़े हुए प्रतिभावान कवियों के कविताओं को पढ़िए । प्रेम, डर, और अंधकार ऐसे कई मायने होंगे जो कवियों के दिल को भावुक रखते है । ऐसी भावुकता का हम आदर करते है और उनकी भावनाओं को निपुण बनाना ही संकल्प है हमारा । हम हर रोज किसी न किसी विषय पर अपने व्हाट्सएप्प ग्रुप में Daily Challenge प्रतियोगिता के माध्यम से लेखकों तथा कवियों को उनकी बातों को कलम तक आने का मौका देते है । और जो सबसे अच्छा लिखते हैं । आप उनकी लेख इस पेज पर पढ़ रहे है


Marriage is not just a bond but it’s a emotion of feelings and behavior. Marriage is not just a relation two people but it’s a relationship between two families. Marriage is not just a relation between two opposite genders but a relation of love , care and respect for each other. Marriage is like a electric pole if connected correctly then runs smoothly but if connected wrongly will repel.
Marriage is bond with customs , traditions and rituals.
Arrange Marriage.
The marriage comes from the time of ancient period.
It is bond with traditions of the family according to their religion. Family interviews and interrogates about the others family deeply for the safety of their children.
Example of arrange marriage – Ram and Sita hi
My grandparents and parents
In the love marriage family argues about the marriage so the children run away from home and perform the marriages but that are not successful nowadays but was successful in ancient time
Like Radha Krishna
It is being said that Shaadi ka ladoo Jo kaye wo phi pachtaye Jo na khaye vo bhi phachtaye Tu kha kar hi pachtana bhala

Anushka Pandey


विवाह जीवन भर का रिश्ता होता हैं
अरेंज हो या लव’ परिस्थिति पर निर्भर होता हैं ।।

अरेंज मैरिज मे दिन-से-दिन ढलने पर,
लव मैरिज मे एक दूसरे को पहले से जानते होते हैं।।

फिर इससे लोगों को क्या हर्ज़ ?
माता-पिता की सहमती हो’ तो विवाह तो विवाह होता हैं ।।

विवाह मंगलसूत्र-सिंदूर से ही नहीं विश्वास से जुड़ा होता हैं
तब दो आत्मा का मिलन होता हैं ।।

विवाह के जोड़े को बेशक हम इंसान बनाते है,
मगर उन जोड़े को’ मोहब्बत की डोरी से खुदा खूद जोड़ते हैं ।।

Pallavi Bhardwaj

Vivah chahe jaisa v ho kya farq padta h
Apas m prem hona jaroori h
Ek dusre par bharosa hona jaroori h
Kyun k vivah sirf do insaano ka nh
Balki pure paribar ko bandh deta h
Yeh ek aisi door hoti h jo
jiban bhar k lie ek dusre ka sahara banti h
Chahe umar badh jaye par pyaar jinda rahana chahiye
Phir prem vivah ho ya gharwalo ki marzi se vivah ho kya farq padta h
Risto m pyaar m hona jyada maine rakhta h


I had a love marriage arranged by my parents after a bloodbath. Both of us are from Delhi but I, though I never cared about this fact, am a Mahajan with roots in Jammu. My father being a poet hated ‘Mahajan’. At a very young age he chose a pen name, takhallus as they say in Urdu, and changed his surname to ‘Salil’, one that we all carry. So much about my father. Now comes the family of my mighty in-laws who were originally from Bihar but moved to Uttar Pradesh a few hundred generations back.
So this is the background Delhi children bring churned by UP and Dogri parents. And i learnt UP is UP and Jammu is Jammu and never the twain shall meet even in Delhi🤣🤣🤣.
Thus love conquered after long fought battle and we got married.
Now if one thinks, as they show in the movies, that this was the happily ever after you are in for a big surprise.
This is where the real struggle begins. I had been seeing my husband since class 12 and we dated for nine years before we got married, to picture abhi shuru huyi hai mere dost.
Soon I realised what a devil in an angel’s garb was the love of my life. I thought I was his first love but his first love was food. I loved cooking but he and his ‘lovely’ mother are excellent cooks I realised to my utter horror. They were picky, choosy, nagging about every dish cooked by me. I got furious but was too much of a wimp to revolt. Several battles were fought, but love never let the marital boat rock. Now I have been married for two decades, I hope I will not be thrown out of the group after this fact is revealed, because it has the word young prefixed to it. So I was saying it’s been a long time and now I am a mother two girls.
I often tell them something I realised very early in life that love alone is not sufficient for a relationship to survive. It’s the mutual respect between spouses that keeps the relationship going. I would even go to the extent of saying that if a person respects you, your choices, stands by your life decision, doesn’t throttle your personal freedom is someone you should choose be it an arranged marriage or love marriage. Boys and girls, men and women don’t ignore the red flags because you could be putting your whole life to ransom.
So love Or arranged, a good marriage is one where mutual ‘RESPECT’ reigns supreme. Love you guys. Love, respect, choose wisely😍.

Sarika Salil

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